Feminism is about female equality not female superiority.
Feminism is a recurring battle that not only women face but men do too.
Who would've believed they both go hand in hand?
It's a topic that opens so many opinions and viewpoints.
Sometimes it is hard to decipher what you should think and feel.
The media doesn't help as it frames both genders to look like we are against each other, leaving the stereotypical alpha males rolling their eyes, belittling the issue.
It's not a battle among all genders, it's about being equal.
There are many ways where now things aren't always equal, like feeling in the workplace and access to opportunities.
Walking into an office with male dominance can be really intimidating, especially for a young woman.
It's not about hating men at all. We as women just want to walk home without all our friends wondering if we will still be alive when we get inside our front door.
It isn't normal to question your safety but what is normal is receiving a message saying let me know you got home safe.
Growing up as a young girl I thought these things were normal. Then growing into a woman makes me look at my reactions and behaviours almost annoyed at myself that society has conditioned me to think a certain way.
Not even knowing I put up boundaries that I don't want to have up but only, for my safety, "it’s best to".
How messed up does the world have to be?
We are brainwashed to wear certain things to fit in with other people and to protect ourselves from people that look at us as objects and not real people.
Imagine if women did that? Oh wait. If we act like men do, then we are looked at as “too much”.
We get told by everyone how to tick a box that isn't a box of our own choosing.
We can't be too much of something because it's a threat - but if you are too little of something you aren't enough.
A common thing that I hear around people who have big personalities or want so much out of life, who don't necessarily fit the mould of every woman on social media, is being too much.
People criticise women when they push boundaries that make other people feel uncomfortable - but that's how we grow.
Being like that as a woman is freeing but not everyone likes it. Why do they want half the population to feel anxious trying to mute down to a level that suits everyone but themselves.
An upside is that women can't be too small - which feels like an insult if they don't have anything for themselves or aren't as confident.
But you must be small enough in size and look good to everyone, so you get better opportunities and more attention, whether it's good or bad attention, that's up to you to decide.
It feels like a lose-lose situation if you ask me.
Feminism is about all groups working together to make each other feel safe, never mind what you’re wearing, what job you have, who earns more and, essentially, who you are within this world.
Most men are feminists too - but they don't realise it because they just give us the fundamental respect that we expect from anyone despite their gender.
Ditch the double standards and acknowledge the different ways men are treated compared to women.
We are given a voice and ears.
Let's use them by talking and listening to each other.
After all, all anyone wants is to be heard.
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